It’s easy to read statistics – to know that approximately 8 million people grapple with eating disorders. Yet, these numbers often remain abstract, distant from our everyday reality. We might acknowledge that 1 in 200 individuals experience anorexia, but rarely do we expect to encounter this struggle in someone we know, admire, or see regularly. Even for someone personally navigating the complexities of an eating disorder, the reality of its prevalence can still be startling. Last week, I experienced such a moment of profound realization when my favorite teacher’s sleeve subtly shifted, revealing a powerful symbol – a Neda Tattoo – inked on her wrist.
The sight of the NEDA tattoo sparked a cascade of thoughts throughout the rest of the class. Here was this woman, my teacher, someone I genuinely look up to and respect, an individual who has enriched my understanding far beyond the confines of academic subjects – and she was a survivor, in recovery from an eating disorder. The desire to ask her about it was strong, a testament to the connection I felt. However, a sense of respect for her privacy and the classroom environment ultimately led me to keep my questions unspoken.
But in that moment, a silent conversation began to form in my mind. If given the chance, here’s what I would want to express to her about seeing her NEDA tattoo:
An Unexpected Source of Inspiration
First and foremost, I would tell her how deeply inspired I am by her journey. To witness someone transform something as profoundly painful and challenging as an eating disorder into the life she has built today is truly remarkable. Even before noticing the tattoo, a small yet significant emblem of her past battles, I recognized her as an exceptional person with a brilliant mind who had overcome obstacles. Seeing the NEDA tattoo, however, made it personal, forging a deeper connection. It served as an incredible source of encouragement for me, knowing that someone who has faced an eating disorder could construct such a fulfilling life and admirable character.
Understanding and Shared Experience
I would also want to inquire about her transition to our city, understanding the challenges of relocation, especially while in recovery. I would share information about local NEDA meetings and the support community available in our area. As an out-of-state student myself, still navigating the complexities of recovery, I understand the daunting task of establishing a new support system in an unfamiliar environment. Starting over in so many ways can feel incredibly isolating, and knowing there are resources available can be invaluable.
Bravery and Ownership
I would express my deep admiration for her bravery in getting the NEDA tattoo – for making such a visible commitment to her recovery and confidently owning her narrative. I would be curious to learn about her journey, to ask her, “How did you do it?” and perhaps more vulnerably, “How can I do it?”. I would want to convey my profound respect for her strength and resilience. It’s crucial for her to know that her past struggles do not define her; instead, they contribute to the beautiful and whole person she is today. Finally, I would express my sincere gratitude for the safe, curious, and engaging atmosphere she cultivates in the classroom, and for her evident appreciation of self-care – a concept that resonates deeply and is more appreciated than she might fully realize.
Perhaps, in the end, words might fail me, and all I could manage to say is simply, “Thank you.” Just, thank you.
If you or someone you know is struggling with an eating disorder, you can call the National Eating Disorders Association Helpline at 1-800-931-2237.
This story is based on a personal experience and reflects the individual’s thoughts and feelings. For more information about eating disorders or to seek help, please contact NEDA.
