So, you’re ready to get inked? Awesome! You’re embracing your true self, perhaps stepping away from societal expectations, and ready to express yourself with a tattoo. If you’re part of the LGBTQ+ community, specifically gay, getting a tattoo can be an empowering step in owning your identity. But where do you even begin?
Getting your first tattoo can feel like navigating uncharted waters. You want it to be perfect – a reflection of you that you’ll love for years to come. We’ve all seen those regrettable tattoos, maybe a poorly done design from our youth. But fear not, getting a meaningful and well-executed tattoo, especially as a gay individual, is totally achievable.
Tattoos are incredibly popular these days, but finding the right path for you can still be tricky. From choosing a design that resonates with your gay identity to finding an artist who understands and respects the queer community, and understanding the unspoken rules of tattoo shops, there’s a lot to think about. This is especially true for those of us who are already navigating marginalized spaces and want to ensure a welcoming and affirming tattoo experience. It might seem overwhelming, but remember: tattoos are a commitment, and you deserve to feel comfortable and respected throughout the process.
Don’t worry! This guide is here to help you navigate the exciting world of tattoos, specifically tailored for gay individuals. We’ll cover everything from finding queer-friendly artists to choosing designs that celebrate your gay identity, making your tattoo journey as smooth and enjoyable as possible. Let’s dive in and get you ready for your perfect Gay Tattoo.
What Kind of Gay Tattoo Should You Get? And Where?
Hopefully, you’re already exploring tattoo ideas and thinking about what you want. And hopefully, you’re also considering the cultural significance and appropriateness of your design choices.
Now, I can’t dictate what gay tattoo is right for you or where on your body it should go. Tattoos are deeply personal, and the reasons we get them are varied and unique. However, if you’re feeling pressured to get a tiny, easily hidden tattoo, it’s worth pausing and reflecting. Is that really what you want? Or are you holding back? A small or hidden tattoo is still permanent. Do you truly want it to be discreet, or are you feeling hesitant to fully express yourself? Does your chosen design even work well in a small size or on that specific body part? Is your artist advising against your placement idea? These are important questions to consider when thinking about your gay tattoo.
Many tattoo artists have their own guidelines about placements they’re comfortable with and the types of tattoos they prefer to do on different people. It’s unlikely a reputable artist will agree to a large, intricate throat tattoo if you’re a first-timer with no other ink. Getting a tattoo is a commitment, and tattoo regret is real.
Curious about the pain factor? Honestly, yes, tattoos hurt a bit. Needles on skin isn’t exactly a spa treatment. Some areas are more sensitive, but everyone experiences pain differently. Generally, bony areas and less frequently touched spots can be more intense. Some people find the sensation addictive, others less so. My take? Pain is temporary. Your mileage may vary!
My best advice for your first gay tattoo experience is to do your research! Find an artist whose style you love, especially one who is queer-affirming and ideally part of the LGBTQ+ community. And be open to their expertise. A skilled artist will know what works best for your skin, design, and placement, and they will listen to your vision. Don’t let yourself be pushed into a design or placement that doesn’t feel right for you. Your gay tattoo should be something you love, reflecting your identity and personal style.
Finding a Gay Tattoo Artist // Booking Your Appointment
In informal polls of queer folks, the top piece of advice for first-timers is to find or prioritize a queer or QTPOC (Queer and Trans People of Color) artist. This is especially relevant when considering a gay tattoo.
The tattoo world is huge, but like many spaces, it can have its share of problematic individuals. Luckily, there’s a vibrant and growing community of queer tattoo artists who are changing the industry for the better, creating safer and more inclusive spaces for everyone, especially for those seeking gay tattoos. Finding these artists might take a little digging, but it’s absolutely worth it. Queer tattooers (QTTRs), particularly queer tattooers of color, are revolutionizing tattooing, making it more accessible and affirming for the LGBTQ+ community.
Beyond finding an artist who respects your queer identity, it’s crucial to look at their portfolios. A significant issue in the tattoo industry is the historical bias towards tattooing thin, white bodies. Racism, fatphobia, transphobia, and ableism are sadly present in the broader tattoo community. It’s infuriating, but thankfully, a strong community of QTPOC tattooers are actively challenging these norms and creating change. Resources like the Instagram account Radical Tattooing, run by QTPOC artist @jaybaby.tattoo, showcase inclusive artists worldwide and offer valuable information on tattooing diverse skin tones and navigating predominantly white tattoo spaces.
My personal rule when choosing an artist for my own tattoos is to avoid anyone whose portfolio doesn’t feature a range of body types and skin tones. Tattooing is incredibly personal; your artist will be close to you, touching your body and permanently marking your skin. For a comfortable and affirming gay tattoo experience, it’s essential to have an artist who treats you with respect – someone who uses your correct name and pronouns, listens to your ideas, and seeks consent throughout the process. You deserve to feel safe, seen, and cared for in your body during your tattoo experience. Queer tattoo artists often explicitly state their commitment to creating safe spaces for queer and trans clients, making it easier to find someone who aligns with your values when getting your gay tattoo.
Remember that tattoo artists have different styles and specialties. If you want bold, bright, traditional designs for your gay tattoo, don’t book with a black and grey realism artist. It’s not their area of expertise, and you likely won’t get the result you’re hoping for.
Once you’ve done your research, decided on your gay tattoo idea, and found a potential artist, it’s time to book! Each artist has their own booking process. Some are very casual (“DM me!”) while others have more structured systems. Many artists book appointments in blocks of time, sometimes months in advance, to manage their schedules. It’s crucial to follow the artist’s preferred booking instructions. Every artist is bombarded with messages and requests, so following their guidelines is a sign of respect and ensures your appointment can be properly scheduled and prepared for.
Gay Tattoo Etiquette: Respecting Your Artist
Like any service industry, tattooing is demanding work. It’s physically taxing and requires significant investment from the artist. An artist’s livelihood depends entirely on clients keeping their appointments and respecting the process. Showing respect for your artist, their time, and their dedication to their craft is essential for a positive gay tattoo experience.
1. Rates. Tattoo pricing isn’t negotiable. It’s not a flea market. Shop minimums exist to cover the artist’s time, studio space, materials, and effort. Trying to haggle is disrespectful and won’t get you anywhere.
Beyond shop minimums, an artist’s hourly rate is their established fee. Some artists offer flat rates for specific designs, but hourly rates (often between $150-$200 per hour) are common. When you book, you’ll typically pay a deposit that goes towards the final cost and is non-refundable if you cancel last minute. Your artist should give you an estimated total cost beforehand.
2. Showing Up. Seems obvious, right? But no-shows are a major frustration for tattoo artists. Life happens, and flexibility is important, especially now. Reputable artists have rescheduling policies that allow them to fill the time slot and for you to retain your deposit. Please, don’t be the client who ghosts their artist. It’s unprofessional and hurts their income.
Quick Covid note: If you’ve been exposed or are feeling unwell, rescheduling is absolutely necessary!
3. Tipping & Payment. Yes, you tip your tattoo artist, just like you tip in other service industries. 20% is standard and greatly appreciated. Factor this into your gay tattoo budget.
4. Artwork Copyright. Admiring another artist’s work is great, but wanting it tattooed on you requires permission. You must get permission from the original artist and the tattoo artist you want to do the tattoo. Tattooers are artists themselves, and some are uncomfortable replicating others’ work. Getting inked with someone else’s design without permission is disrespectful, even if you mean well. Just be upfront, ask for permission, and proceed ethically.
Your Gay Tattoo Appointment & Aftercare
The tattoo appointment itself is usually straightforward. Your artist will guide you to their station and review the design with you. It’s always okay to say no or request changes – size, design details, placement – before the tattooing begins. Don’t feel pressured to accept something that isn’t exactly what you want. It’s your body and your gay tattoo; you should love it. A good artist understands this and wants you to be happy.
Speak up during the session! Let your artist know if you need breaks or to adjust your position. Tattoos aren’t always comfortable, but they shouldn’t be torture. Be mindful of shop Covid protocols and inform your artist of any accessibility needs. For instance, if you have mobility issues or medical conditions that might affect the process, let them know beforehand. Honest communication ensures a smoother experience for everyone. Your artist wants you to be as comfortable as possible while getting your gay tattoo.
After your tattoo is finished, your artist will provide aftercare instructions. Follow these carefully! Generally, it involves keeping the tattoo clean, dry, and moisturized. Avoid picking or scratching.
That’s it! If you share your new gay tattoo on social media, tag your artist! They appreciate the credit. Remember that tattoo etiquette is about respect and contributes to a positive experience for everyone involved. While no one can guarantee you’ll always love your tattoo, a good experience certainly increases the odds. So, cheers to your new gay tattoo and expressing your authentic self! And maybe… sorry to your mom (if applicable!).
Rad Queer Tattoo Artists to Follow for Gay Tattoo Inspiration
Here are some amazing queer tattoo artists to follow on Instagram to get you started on your gay tattoo journey!
